Maybe if we knew what kind of woman she is, it might help...outdoorsy, music lover, a romantic, etc...and if you don't mind, what are you getting her for her present?

Even though you may have always known what to buy her for her birthday, etc etc, which is nice because then she knows that you care for what she wants, etc. Have you ever tried to do anything that requires thoughts about your feelings for her?

I'm just that type of person that would go a little out of the way just to show how much I care even on days such as a birthday. For example, I bought however many balloons (the amount of their birthday age) and what I just did was asked his family to help me out and write out however many reasons they wanted to say on why they love him. Then I wrote them all on little pieces of paper and stuffed them individually into a balloon, then blew them up. Later, had him popped them and read them.

For being that you've been with this special lady for 20 some years... that's awesome. Just have you tried anything such as that? Just do something that comes to mind that you think would show her a lot of how much she means. That's what I did. It was the first idea that came through and I did it.

Hope that helps some.


Otherwise, I know, myself... I like to put together some pictures and put a certain book together (scrapbooking wise)...even though many 'guys' don't do this... they can be good at it just as well as us ladies who does it. Then put on there why that picture's your favorite, or what you remember from the day that picture was taken, etc... once you start, ideas will just start pouring in your mind left and right.

Again, hope this helps. I think at times it means more coming from inside than just buying things. GOOD LUCK!! Let us know what you came up with!

I have a really cool necklace and bracelet that is by a company called Pandora. You can add "beads/charms" for different events, etc. I love my necklace. I bought it after the sale of the household items at my mom's house. I bought certain beads for certain events, like her birthday, etc. It is pretty cool and is something she may enjoy adding to along the way. There is a website you can visit and get the information on stores in your area. The beads can be inexpensive to expensive. I'll send you the link to the site.

Try a simple poem.
It doesnt have to be fantastic or lovey dovey, it can just be full of memories and thoughts that we forget to say.
Been with my hubby for 25 years and yes, you do run out of ideas, but simple things can matter more after this amount of time.
Remembering when you first met, your feelings and thoughts compared to how you feel and think now can mean so much.
To be together after such a long time, you forget the little things, especially as life takes over...

How about sending her on a hunt for her present. I did this a cpl years ago for a friend, takes a little planning. My friend loved it. I had several presents in different places. Each time she found one there would be a note telling her where to go next. If they are public like a restaurant , it takes coordinating with a person working there. May not be all that original but how many people do it.

Good gawd. Mori....from what I've been reading ....you've got this birthday thing down!!

Geez...last year while we were shopping at Walmart my husband just threw a squirrel proof bird feeder in the cart and said "There ya go, happy birthday"...

I'm so sorry to hear about the hurt part, Mori...sure hope ya'all can work through it, sounds like you have a strong fondation.
Maybe soon, you two can celebrate with some kind of "re-committment"...sometimes renewed promises, affirmations, even renewed vows can give a fresh and forward look at things.
Wish you the best, dear!