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need some help on this one
recently another couple from a different site contacted us and wants to get together ,in fact we are meeting the woman tomorrow for drinks.as we are both new to this we could use some advice.the other couple are both very attractive so not a problem there.we were just wondering when couples play is that just an excuse for a strange piece of ass or what?originaly we were just looking for another woman to join us .has anyone else been in this situation?:hide g/f isn`t realy into the idea of having sex with some other guy,it don`t bother me as i would be having sex with her and another woman in a threesome .would realy like to hear from others that have played as a couple with a couple 
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| May 25, 2004, 14:48 |
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Re: need some help on this one
I believe when most couples play because they're very secure with their relationship, open minded, and are exploring ways to enhance thier sex life. I don't think it's because they want a different piece of ass, or for individual gain. From what little I know, they do it as a couple, and any ohters that are there, are a way and means of exciting each other. But if she, or either one of you are ever hesitant or uncomfortable about anything, you might wanna spend just a little more time talking about it, even " reseaching" it together a little more. You two do make a mAke a damn cute couple, and I know you both have sincere and strong feelings for each other (You two are in LOOOOOVEEEEE!!!!,o  ) I love that you both put allot of thought into this,sought out information and opinions. It shows that you value your relationship, that you appreciate what a great woman you have with you and it shows you are a good man for her. I'd like to be more aloof about it and just say "hell, yeah! go for it, sounds great, you'll never regret it and you'll both have the time of your life!" but I think you're already going about this in the right way and in handling it very intelligently!
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| May 25, 2004, 16:25 |
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Re: need some help on this one
thanks chazzy  i definatly don`t want anything to come between us, but my g/f is doing most of the emailing between us and she is pretty well spoken and has asked some pretty blunt questions.so far so good
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| May 25, 2004, 16:32 |
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Re: need some help on this one
sounds like you want your cake served your way and your not prepared to share. going down this road can be very erotic but im afraid it is fraught with danger. your happy for a third party ie: another woman to join in, that is a common male fantasy, but now you realise your lady may have to get rogered to fulfill your desires and i think you are troubled by it.it all sounds like good fun when you first suggest it but now the moment of truth is nearing, you are having doubts.if you truely love your lady and she is the 'one' do you really want to jeopodise your lifelong happiness for a cheap thrill which will forever play on your mind? tread wisely friend. love to you all and i pray you make the right decision for 'you'. ps get a second partner involved that you dont care long term about,and then have your fun but keep your loved one for you.
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| May 25, 2004, 16:32 |
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Re: Re: need some help on this one
QUOTE (allon @ May 25, 2004, 16:32)sounds like you want your cake served your way and your not prepared to share. going down this road can be very erotic but im afraid it is fraught with danger. your happy for a third party ie: another woman to join in, that is a common male fantasy, but now you realise your lady may have to get rogered to fulfill your desires and i think you are troubled by it.it all sounds like good fun when you first suggest it but now the moment of truth is nearing, you are having doubts.if you truely love your lady and she is the 'one' do you really want to jeopodise your lifelong happiness for a cheap thrill which will forever play on your mind? tread wisely friend. love to you all and i pray you make the right decision for 'you'. ps get a second partner involved that you dont care long term about,and then have your fun but keep your loved one for you.
i think you miss read my post as i don`t have any problem with someone else pleasuring her. thats what it is all about to us, PLEASURING each other as much as possible not a cheap thill as you put it.we would each like a threesome each way mfm and fmf.just thought a couple might be a bit uncomfortable and wanted to hear about some experiences from others 
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| May 25, 2004, 16:38 |
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Re: need some help on this one
Even if allon's reply isn't exactly applicable in your particular case, it still is very insightful and excellent advice for anyone venturing into that area or a similar situation.
And I agree with him that anyone that has a sound and happy relationship should reallize what is at risk, and that actions have repercussions.
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| May 25, 2004, 16:55 |
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QUOTE (Chazzy @ May 25, 2004, 16:55)Even if allon's reply isn't exactly applicable in your particular case, it still is very insightful and excellent advice for anyone venturing into that area or a similar situation.
And I agree with him that anyone that has a sound and happy relationship should reallize what is at risk, and that actions have repercussions.
sorry i probably took that one wrong,in rereading both posts i came off a little to pissy.(little caracter flaw there workin on it) 
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| May 25, 2004, 17:58 |
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Re: need some help on this one
Do not weary thy innocent mind over the high cost of ripened fruit, fill thy baskets today and your souls I shall have tommarow as retribution. DAMION In other words be carefull!!!
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| May 25, 2004, 18:54 |
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QUOTE (hothands @ May 25, 2004, 18:54)Do not weary thy innocent mind over the high cost of ripened fruit, fill thy baskets today and your souls I shall have tommarow as retribution. DAMION In other words be carefull!!!
that`s why i posted this thanks for the input. like i said so far so good.a couple drinks never hurt anyone right?  see how it goes ,they are both pretty cool. we just had`nt entertained the thought of another couple as of yet.i could see it down the road but just caught us a bit off guard i guess would be the way to put it.
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| May 25, 2004, 19:01 |
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after ALOT of discussion(amungst ourselves) we have decided to agree to a soft swap if there is some chemistry between us.forgive my ignorance but we are assuming that a soft swap is everything but intercourse?g/f can`t get into having sex with someone else.nothing is set in stone by any means and everything depends upon chemistry and the given situation.we`ll see!
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| May 26, 2004, 08:03 |
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Sounds like a smart move, gonna let us know if it went well? And tell your G/F hello for me!!
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| May 26, 2004, 12:32 |
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QUOTE (Chazzy @ May 26, 2004, 12:32)Sounds like a smart move, gonna let us know if it went well? And tell your G/F hello for me!!
i will keep you up to date.thanks again for your help.i have to admit tonight will be the first time i have taken a date to a date(just drinks tonight)hopefully we`ll hit it off as they pass thru town every friday and sunday.they have a cabin about 40miles from here in a nice area in the mountains
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| May 26, 2004, 13:30 |
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Re: need some help on this one
Just out of curiosity... Is Web Naughty 'responsible' for the connection between you and the other couple? 
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| May 26, 2004, 14:42 |
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QUOTE (absix @ May 26, 2004, 14:42)Just out of curiosity... Is Web Naughty 'responsible' for the connection between you and the other couple?
sorry boss. chalk one up for aff 
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| May 26, 2004, 15:06 |
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Well this roadtrip you are taking can be a very erotic ride or a very bad turbulent plane ride. A couple of yrs ago me and a ex of mine decided we should maybe try swinging . We did the research and after gettin 2 know a couple we decided 2 give it a try. Like u guess it was very erotic, different, seeing someone else pleasuring your lady at best can be a bit unsettling. Even though I 2 was havin sex with another woman right next 2 me. Well after it was done we went back 2 our regular couples and talked shot the shit and basically just continued relaxing. The thing is later that night my girl asked so did u enjoy yourself and I replied yes and what about u I asked and she said it was ok. Well weeks went by everything was fine and I came home from work. Her girlfriend was over talking and I overheard her saying how much she connected with this guy like we never have before. It kinda hurted because I thought our relationship was strong enough and there was never any infidelity between the 2 of us. Well 2 make a long story short she confessed that she was seein him regularly on the side and couldn't explain the feelings she was havin for him. Well we broke up and his girlfriend broke up with him and then we hookeed up and it lasted about a yr while hers lasted 4 weeks. What I am sayin is no matter how secure u are in a relationship there is always room for the right person 2 fuck everything up so be very careful because it seems that you guys love each other but i 've seen people who really love each other one day hate each other the next....
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| May 26, 2004, 15:10 |
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thanks for the advice dipset we are really looking for all the input we can get.i personally thought a couple might work out better than another man or woman so that my g/f gets more out of the occasion.we are both really into pleasuring each other to the fullest.we`ll see how it goes. 
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| May 26, 2004, 15:31 |
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ok. we met her tonight she is hot as hell,both of us were attracted to her she left with giving both of us a NICE kiss from the bar.g/f is now opening up on the idea of meeting the hubby.just trying to keep everyone posted.it went great.if the hubby is as cool i`ll have some good shit to tell come tuesday 
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| May 26, 2004, 22:06 |
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QUOTE (dipset1972 @ May 26, 2004, 15:10)Well this roadtrip you are taking can be a very erotic ride or a very bad turbulent plane ride. A couple of yrs ago me and a ex of mine decided we should maybe try swinging . We did the research and after gettin 2 know a couple we decided 2 give it a try. Like u guess it was very erotic, different, seeing someone else pleasuring your lady at best can be a bit unsettling. Even though I 2 was havin sex with another woman right next 2 me. Well after it was done we went back 2 our regular couples and talked shot the shit and basically just continued relaxing. The thing is later that night my girl asked so did u enjoy yourself and I replied yes and what about u I asked and she said it was ok. Well weeks went by everything was fine and I came home from work. Her girlfriend was over talking and I overheard her saying how much she connected with this guy like we never have before. It kinda hurted because I thought our relationship was strong enough and there was never any infidelity between the 2 of us. Well 2 make a long story short she confessed that she was seein him regularly on the side and couldn't explain the feelings she was havin for him. Well we broke up and his girlfriend broke up with him and then we hookeed up and it lasted about a yr while hers lasted 4 weeks. What I am sayin is no matter how secure u are in a relationship there is always room for the right person 2 fuck everything up so be very careful because it seems that you guys love each other but i 've seen people who really love each other one day hate each other the next....
i am sure just as you must have been at the time that i could watch someone else doing my g/f you REALLY bring up a good point with that. i am pretty sure it would be ok with me. i am not a jealous person by any means but once again , never been in that situation.so far so good just talking about it has brought us closer ie: talking about some things/fantasies and what have you that just had`nt been discussed.once again so far so good
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| May 27, 2004, 22:29 |
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QUOTE (24694u @ May 27, 2004, 22:29) QUOTE (dipset1972 @ May 26, 2004, 15:10)Well this roadtrip you are taking can be a very erotic ride or a very bad turbulent plane ride. A couple of yrs ago me and a ex of mine decided we should maybe try swinging . We did the research and after gettin 2 know a couple we decided 2 give it a try. Like u guess it was very erotic, different, seeing someone else pleasuring your lady at best can be a bit unsettling. Even though I 2 was havin sex with another woman right next 2 me. Well after it was done we went back 2 our regular couples and talked shot the shit and basically just continued relaxing. The thing is later that night my girl asked so did u enjoy yourself and I replied yes and what about u I asked and she said it was ok. Well weeks went by everything was fine and I came home from work. Her girlfriend was over talking and I overheard her saying how much she connected with this guy like we never have before. It kinda hurted because I thought our relationship was strong enough and there was never any infidelity between the 2 of us. Well 2 make a long story short she confessed that she was seein him regularly on the side and couldn't explain the feelings she was havin for him. Well we broke up and his girlfriend broke up with him and then we hookeed up and it lasted about a yr while hers lasted 4 weeks. What I am sayin is no matter how secure u are in a relationship there is always room for the right person 2 fuck everything up so be very careful because it seems that you guys love each other but i 've seen people who really love each other one day hate each other the next.... i am sure just as you must have been at the time that i could watch someone else doing my g/f you REALLY bring up a good point with that. i am pretty sure it would be ok with me. i am not a jealous person by any means but once again , never been in that situation.so far so good just talking about it has brought us closer ie: talking about some things/fantasies and what have you that just had`nt been discussed.once again so far so good
well that's good that u 2 communicate and have discussed it. Just gotta discuss possible scenarios especially the "what's ifs" because its those that will put u in a bind
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| May 28, 2004, 05:48 |
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QUOTE (dipset1972 @ May 28, 2004, 05:48) QUOTE (24694u @ May 27, 2004, 22:29) QUOTE (dipset1972 @ May 26, 2004, 15:10)Well this roadtrip you are taking can be a very erotic ride or a very bad turbulent plane ride. A couple of yrs ago me and a ex of mine decided we should maybe try swinging . We did the research and after gettin 2 know a couple we decided 2 give it a try. Like u guess it was very erotic, different, seeing someone else pleasuring your lady at best can be a bit unsettling. Even though I 2 was havin sex with another woman right next 2 me. Well after it was done we went back 2 our regular couples and talked shot the shit and basically just continued relaxing. The thing is later that night my girl asked so did u enjoy yourself and I replied yes and what about u I asked and she said it was ok. Well weeks went by everything was fine and I came home from work. Her girlfriend was over talking and I overheard her saying how much she connected with this guy like we never have before. It kinda hurted because I thought our relationship was strong enough and there was never any infidelity between the 2 of us. Well 2 make a long story short she confessed that she was seein him regularly on the side and couldn't explain the feelings she was havin for him. Well we broke up and his girlfriend broke up with him and then we hookeed up and it lasted about a yr while hers lasted 4 weeks. What I am sayin is no matter how secure u are in a relationship there is always room for the right person 2 fuck everything up so be very careful because it seems that you guys love each other but i 've seen people who really love each other one day hate each other the next.... i am sure just as you must have been at the time that i could watch someone else doing my g/f you REALLY bring up a good point with that. i am pretty sure it would be ok with me. i am not a jealous person by any means but once again , never been in that situation.so far so good just talking about it has brought us closer ie: talking about some things/fantasies and what have you that just had`nt been discussed.once again so far so good well that's good that u 2 communicate and have discussed it. Just gotta discuss possible scenarios especially the "what's ifs" because its those that will put u in a bind
seems like that is all we have been discussing.g/f has a very level head and i can assure you that if there is anything she don`t like it ends right then.the more that we discuss the issue its actually strarting to sound better than a threesome .we still have to meet him this weekend but after meeting her wednesday i`m sure he will be cool also.g/f and the other gal really hit it off and have been talking alot which is really putting g/f at ease.
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| May 28, 2004, 08:54 |
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ok we got it done last night.we met him yesterday and hit it off great.spent all day flirting and joking getting comfortable with each other.we would sneak off in threesomes here and there make out double blowjobs and stuff like that(double b/j was a long time fantasy for me) later we started in the bedroom with us and just him (as that was g/f`s fantasy)later the other gal came in and started blowing me as i was eating my g/f.it was awsome to be giving and recieving at the same time.after awhile the women ended up side by side making out while getting ate.after a bit the other gal pulled me up and started going at it,ended up an ankle in each hand knocking the back out of it.this REALLY turned my g/f on 
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| May 31, 2004, 18:05 |
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the rest of the night can only be described like being at an adult amusement park.pairing up/switching off and threesomes while someone would take a break watch and just jump back in.i can honestly say i need to re-write our profile and erase the curious from bi-curious as g/f loved being with another woman and it was very erotic watching her with either of them and she agrees.we both think that6 this is the best thing that has happened to our relationship as we have learned a lot about each other talking now and leading up to this
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| May 31, 2004, 18:10 |
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doesn't sound like you need too much help with this one anymore!
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| June 1, 2004, 14:12 |
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QUOTE (kbateman @ June 1, 2004, 14:12)doesn't sound like you need too much help with this one anymore!
NOPE! we got it figured out, but it was good to hear some opinions from others first.not something you bs with your work buddies over a beer about.thanks to all with their advice we are both looking forward to next time.the girls are already getting it set up just sucks to be me sometimes 
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| June 1, 2004, 14:36 |
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played with the same couple again this weekend.i think it was even better than the first time as we were all more comfortable with each other.the camera and toys came out this weekend.good times had by all for sure.maybe next time we can try out their swing(always sounded like fun).things are going great as the girls are quickly becoming very good friends and talk to each other daily.the other guy is very laid back and easy to get along with.so far so good
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| June 7, 2004, 16:07 |
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allon
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absolutly delighted for you sir, keep the updates a..cumminn, success stories like this keep us cynics humble and hopefull. appologies for the earlier missundersanding. just be...
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| June 7, 2004, 18:05 |
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QUOTE (allon @ June 7, 2004, 18:05)absolutly delighted for you sir, keep the updates a..cumminn, success stories like this keep us cynics humble and hopefull. appologies for the earlier missundersanding. just be...
don`t get me wrong. all this don`t come with it`s own different insecurities.the woman was supposed to come to town tonight and my g/f has to work till 10:00 there was a lot of discussion about what was and wasn`t acceptable with us.plans changed however and the gal can`t make it tonight so another time perhaps hopefully when my g/f isn`t working.i am also VERY cynical by nature and understand exactly where you are coming from.i/we really appreciate the input from all,as we sit down together to read the posts` sometimes
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| June 10, 2004, 17:47 |
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