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The "other" woman...........
I have been presented with another potential extra-marrital problem. You see, I like the band EARTH, WIND & FIRE. So does the wife of the other couple that my wife and I consider our best friends. The "other" woman, has just asked me to take her to see the band in SARATOGA, NY. Our spouses do not like that band. Over the years, the "other" woman and I have threatened to go see that band, someday, hook or crook. All of a sudden, the "other "woman, has asked me to take her to the concert (her husband won't). This journey to the concert, would require us to stay overnight in a hotel.
Do I tell her the obvious, that neither her husband nor my wife, would be happy with that situation so forget about it, or do I go ahead with her plans and buy the freakin' tickets and plan to go anyway???? We could share a hotel room, but I would be the perfect gentleman and sleep on the couch. No hanky-panky whatsoever!!!!
What to do, what to do????????
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| July 16, 2006, 23:16 |
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Re: The "other" woman...........
QUOTE (voyeurbill @ July 16, 2006, 23:16)I have been presented with another potential extra-marrital problem. You see, I like the band EARTH, WIND & FIRE. So does the wife of the other couple that my wife and I consider our best friends. The "other" woman, has just asked me to take her to see the band in SARATOGA, NY. Our spouses do not like that band. Over the years, the "other" woman and I have threatened to go see that band, someday, hook or crook. All of a sudden, the "other "woman, has asked me to take her to the concert (her husband won't). This journey to the concert, would require us to stay overnight in a hotel.
Do I tell her the obvious, that neither her husband nor my wife, would be happy with that situation so forget about it, or do I go ahead with her plans and buy the freakin' tickets and plan to go anyway???? We could share a hotel room, but I would be the perfect gentleman and sleep on the couch. No hanky-panky whatsoever!!!!
What to do, what to do????????
Sounds to me.. that she just wants to be with you somehow. I'd go with the gut instinct, and tell her to go alone if she wants to go that bad or find someone else. You have a wife (who you should be putting first before anyone in that kind of situation) and if you know already your wife and the husband of your friend will not like it, I wouldn't personally pursue even trying to bring up the idea to your wife. Just my two cents.
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| July 16, 2006, 23:25 |
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Re: The "other" woman...........
Maybe all four of you go for the overnite trip, but the two of you go to the concert? Either spouse won't be left alone, sitting at home, imagining all kinds of cheating scenarios.
This will, however, leave the four of you with a possible little bitty powder keg when you and she relive your "awesome concert!" memories while the spouses just sit there listening to ya'all go on and on about how great it was.
If you can all four make the trip, two go to the concert, and the other two can also make some plans (together or seperately) If possible, make it a two niter trip, first nite the concert, second nite...some quality romantic party fun with your spouses alone, or indulge them in something they love to do....
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| July 17, 2006, 07:24 |
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Re: Re: The "other" woman...........
QUOTE (Chazzy @ July 17, 2006, 07:24)Maybe all four of you go for the overnite trip, but the two of you go to the concert? Either spouse won't be left alone, sitting at home, imagining all kinds of cheating scenarios.
This will, however, leave the four of you with a possible little bitty powder keg when you and she relive your "awesome concert!" memories while the spouses just sit there listening to ya'all go on and on about how great it was.
If you can all four make the trip, two go to the concert, and the other two can also make some plans (together or seperately) If possible, make it a two niter trip, first nite the concert, second nite...some quality romantic party fun with your spouses alone, or indulge them in something they love to do....
We're (my friend & I) trying to make that a reality. So far that idea is met with apathy.
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| July 17, 2006, 13:09 |
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Re: The "other" woman...........
Well dammit....maybe hey just need to mull it over so more.
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| July 17, 2006, 13:12 |
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In the Sun, Arizona, US
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Re: The "other" woman...........
I like Chazzy's idea, because I tell you - you maybe chosing between your wife and a concert...are you sure you want to do that?
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| July 17, 2006, 23:54 |
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QUOTE (40something @ July 17, 2006, 23:54)I like Chazzy's idea, because I tell you - you maybe chosing between your wife and a concert...are you sure you want to do that?
My wife said she had no problem with me accompanying my friend to the concert and it was she who said that maybe we should do an overnight.
Hell, my wife does one 5 day jaunt to LOUDON, NH every summer to watch NASCAR with a group of fellow shit-kickers (lol). Included in the group are 2 men and three women. They all work together, so I don't feel at all threatened by them going together. My wife gets a separate room while she's there.
For me, five days apart is a semi-vacation. I get to just hang out and do what I like. When she returns, we make up for lost time.
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| July 18, 2006, 08:02 |
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QUOTE (voyeurbill @ July 18, 2006, 08:02) QUOTE (40something @ July 17, 2006, 23:54)I like Chazzy's idea, because I tell you - you maybe chosing between your wife and a concert...are you sure you want to do that?
My wife said she had no problem with me accompanying my friend to the concert and it was she who said that maybe we should do an overnight.
Hell, my wife does one 5 day jaunt to LOUDON, NH every summer to watch NASCAR with a group of fellow shit-kickers (lol). Included in the group are 2 men and three women. They all work together, so I don't feel at all threatened by them going together. My wife gets a separate room while she's there.
For me, five days apart is a semi-vacation. I get to just hang out and do what I like. When she returns, we make up for lost time.
Yep...sounds like you and your wife got a real good relationship going on...and you got the good senxe God gave ya, VB...I think we can all trust that you are not gonna wreck the good thing you got! 
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| July 18, 2006, 10:29 |
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mystic1
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Vermillion, South Dakota, US
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Re: The "other" woman...........
going to the concert "seems" like a good idea when you first think about it, especially because your wife doesn't like the band but you do. talk to your wife andd tell her that the other woman broached you with the idea of the 2 of you [you and her]
but you wouldn't hear of it; that you want to go with your wife and not another woman. maybe that will bring your wife around.
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| August 3, 2006, 10:18 |
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thepeachotc
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san diego, California, US
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If you have your wife's "blessing" for this trip, the ONE thing I would suggest is: GET TWO ROOMS!
That eliminates a LOT of speculation by other parties.
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| August 3, 2006, 12:43 |
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Re: The "other" woman...........
Thinking about it now, after all, you and your wife must trust each other? If that's the case then.. you're set. Go, have fun. Kinda forgot that was one of the main things in a relationship such as yourselves. Whatever the outcome, best of luck to you.
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