Anyone make it a regular part of their sexual lifetyle? Are there many interested in trying it or curious enough about it to check out related sites and internet porn?
Do many women fantasize about a man to use and dominate, and do many normally aggressive "manly" men ever fantasize about what it would be like to be at the complete control and mercy of a Dominant woman?

great thread - my man is every bit of the word "man" - yet, when i get to fuck him with my strap-on he becomes MY woman and i have never known that feeling before with a man. it's quite exhilerating and a little intimidating to have so much power over one who is twice my size. he gives himself so completely to me with reckless abandon. it also gives me a great appreciation for all the work it takes for a man to fuck on top of a woman like that. no wonder men's asses are so tight.

great thread - my man is every bit of the word "man" - yet, when i get to fuck him with my strap-on he becomes MY woman and i have never known that feeling before with a man. it's quite exhilerating and a little intimidating to have so much power over one who is twice my size. he gives himself so completely to me with reckless abandon. it also gives me a great appreciation for all the work it takes for a man to fuck on top of a woman like that. no wonder men's asses are so tight.

Bikerchick, those are my thoughts exactly.

  QUOTE (funlovingpair @ May 26, 2006, 00:37)


don't knock it till you've tried it, s'all i can say. plus, it's one hell of a workout and keeps my butt fit and trim

i am still waiting for a woman to bend me over a fuck me , but i cant see it happening somehow. no-one in the UK seems interested

i am still waiting for a woman to bend me over a fuck me , but i cant see it happening somehow. no-one in the UK seems interested

  QUOTE (sexaddict2200 @ May 27, 2006, 08:51)



So....a vacation in the US this year???

I often think about a man dominating me. Hell.or woman, Just throwing me down and having their way with bme. Is that bad??????

  QUOTE (sexaddict2200 @ May 27, 2006, 08:51)



So....a vacation in the US this year???

I often think about a man dominating me. Hell.or woman, Just throwing me down and having their way with bme. Is that bad??????

great thread - my man is every bit of the word "man" - yet, when i get to fuck him with my strap-on he becomes MY woman and i have never known that feeling before with a man. it's quite exhilerating and a little intimidating to have so much power over one who is twice my size. he gives himself so completely to me with reckless abandon. it also gives me a great appreciation for all the work it takes for a man to fuck on top of a woman like that. no wonder men's asses are so tight.

great thread - my man is every bit of the word "man" - yet, when i get to fuck him with my strap-on he becomes MY woman and i have never known that feeling before with a man. it's quite exhilerating and a little intimidating to have so much power over one who is twice my size. he gives himself so completely to me with reckless abandon. it also gives me a great appreciation for all the work it takes for a man to fuck on top of a woman like that. no wonder men's asses are so tight.

  QUOTE (lizonya @ May 25, 2006, 15:28)


From the direction this discussion has taken, I'm lead to believe that in the act of anal sex , the "inserter" is the dominator and the "insertee" is the dominated/submissive. This is not a particularly difficult concept to grasp and as it applies here, the terminology indeed it may very well be appropriate. But I've never really subscribed to that school of thought because when applied in other instances, the concept seems to conflict with itself and creates confusion for me.

It never occurred to me that each time I engage in anal sex with my female partner , I am dominating her and she is submissive. I get no feeling of having power or the sensation that I'm imposing my will. There are a number of precautions that I take to ensure the comfort of my partner so that "both" of us may have a gratifying experience. The ultimate goal is to have a gratifying experience. So in reality, my actions actually "yield" to whatever is necessary to ensure her comfort, because without her comfort, the goal can't be achieved. So, I hardly see how my role as the
inserter can me considered to be dominant when there are other factors that really control my role! Perhpas in the case of rape, domination fits, but certainly not in a mutually agreed upon act. And I believe that it is because of this disparity that recently, some authorities have proposed identifying the roles as "active" and "passive" vs. Dominant and Submissive. Furthermore, extrapolating the Dominant/Submissive concept in anal sex to the act of coitus (both acts are virtually identical mechanically) reveals additional issues that aren't satisfactorily resolved.

  QUOTE (qaqc4u @ June 28, 2006, 13:13)


huh? ~ what i meant was that when i fuck him, i see how he enjoys just laying there on his back and relies on me to do the pumping - he is in exstacy - and i am in control of applying it, hence my appreciation of men and all the work that is involved in pleasing a woman to allow us the pleasure of just kicking back and getting fucked.

I like your replies, qaq...damn good question too.
I don't think that "who penetrates who" determines dominance, dominance and submission are a matter of the brain and are a part of one's natural tendencies, erotic fantasies, sexual personality, and for many couples, it's a role reversal thing.
When male clients visit a professional Fem Dom, most often there is no strap-ons, no penetration at all. The majority are men who, in their daily grind are totally in control and make all decisions, at work and at home. Relinquishing control to a Fem Dom is a form of stress relief for them.

I like your replies, qaq...damn good question too.
I don't think that "who penetrates who" determines dominance, dominance and submission are a matter of the brain and are a part of one's natural tendencies, erotic fantasies, sexual personality, and for many couples, it's a role reversal thing.
When male clients visit a professional Fem Dom, most often there is no strap-ons, no penetration at all. The majority are men who, in their daily grind are totally in control and make all decisions, at work and at home. Relinquishing control to a Fem Dom is a form of stress relief for them.

  QUOTE (Chazzy @ June 29, 2006, 07:30)


Great. I can subscribe to your explanation of some men deriving therapeutic relief by relinquishing control temporarily to Fem Dom now that we've established and agree that penetration doesn't determine whose role is dominant when a couple engage in anal sex .

But what are the techniques employed by a Fem Dom that allows a male to relinquish control when having sex now that we've established that penetration is not the vehicle? In other words, other than the assuming the routine responsibilities of paying the bills, and providing for the care, needs and comfort for all those dependent on her male client, what can the Female Dom possibly do sexually to temporarily relieve her male client of the burden of his responsibilities?

  QUOTE (qaqc4u @ July 2, 2006, 16:02)


The therapy thing, is just one reason a man may seek out a professional FemDom, some men just prefer to be submissive.
Tell ya what, I'll revisit some of my better bookmarked info sites, and I'll do my best to even find us a few actual FemDoms and a few submissive men, who I know can explain this so much better than I can!

great thread - my man is every bit of the word "man" - yet, when i get to fuck him with my strap-on he becomes MY woman and i have never known that feeling before with a man. it's quite exhilerating and a little intimidating to have so much power over one who is twice my size. he gives himself so completely to me with reckless abandon. it also gives me a great appreciation for all the work it takes for a man to fuck on top of a woman like that. no wonder men's asses are so tight.

  QUOTE (funlovingpair @ May 26, 2006, 00:37)


don't knock it till you've tried it, s'all i can say. plus, it's one hell of a workout and keeps my butt fit and trim

I sent out quite a few messages this morning, and hope to get some replies soon.
There are some of those involved with the BDSM culture that do associate some sociology and pyschology with it. And some in the psychology/sociology fields that do study the BDSM culture.
I can only go on my very limited resource of knowledge here, and I will continue a strong effort to find those who can better answer questions, and clear up any myths and misunderstandings about the lifestyle.

Well written post there, Chuck! Thank you!

  QUOTE (Chazzy @ August 18, 2006, 04:14)


No problem. Remember to keep it SAFE, SANE, and completely CONSENSUAL.