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		 lucyxxx
				
		  49 / female		  akron, Ohio, US		
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		my abusive ex ruined me for other men
		 
		
		my ex boyfriend use to beat me up, and when he was done he would  fuck me  or eat me out..all the while his roommate watched.  he did a lot of other sexually abusive things..but it made me cum..all the time.  i cant get off on normal sex anymore..i miss the abuse ..any advice? 		
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				|  February 4, 2012, 21:00 | 
				
					
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		Re: my abusive ex ruined me for other men
		 
		
		Sorry to hear about that. I wish I had some advice for you. Can you get your self off? 		
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				|  February 4, 2012, 21:09 | 
				
					
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		 pperns
				
		  65 / male		  medford, Wisconsin, US		
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		Re: my abusive ex ruined me for other men
		 
		
		no reason to fear their are people who like bdsm  that may be the way for you to go . look for a master slave relationship that meets your needs and remember not all people like the same things.  		
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				|  February 12, 2012, 15:24 | 
				
					
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		Re: my abusive ex ruined me for other men
		 
		
		If, before the boyfriend you mentioned, you had submissive/slave tendencies, I would be somewhat inclined to agree with pperns. 
  
 However, just going about it like you did with your ex is not very healthy and very risky. Without some guidance, you could end up with one abusive relationship after another just for the sex. Getting "beat up" is not BDSM. 
 It does not seem to me, in your few words, that your boyfriend was experienced or knowledgable in BDSM, I am guessing he is just a violent man. Such a huge difference. 
  
 A true BDSM relationship might be very suitable and satisfying for you. 
  
 Do you have children? Don't have to answer, but I'm sure you can understand why I ask. 
  
 Having a satisfying and discreet BDSM sex life is one thing, but exposing yourself and your family and loved ones with your abusive relationships is not at all fair to all those involved. 
  
 Let me see if I can drop a note into someone's inbox here, who I think might be able to help you figure out a few things. 		
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				|  February 12, 2012, 15:54 | 
				
					
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		 Kinkitupanotch
				
		  55 / male		  Fraser Valley, British Columbia, Canada		
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		Re: my abusive ex ruined me for other men
		 
		
		Awe, Chazzy you are such a Sweet Mother Bear to us all. Here is a big Wow you're great Hug for you!!!! Hope things are well on the home front. 
  
  
          
  
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				|  February 12, 2012, 17:48 | 
				
					
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		 Misty0123
				
		  51 / female		  Helena, Montana, US		
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		Re: my abusive ex ruined me for other men
		 
		
		I didnt even know that was 'abuse'!  I have to watch it or think about it-  		
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		 ashkats
				
		  65 / couple		  crystal falls, Michigan, US		
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		Re: my abusive ex ruined me for other men
		 
		
		yep chazzys usually right.. 		
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